Wednesday, October 03, 2007

PRESCHOOL, TEARS & FULL TERM MOMS VERSES PREEMIE MOMS

Over the past month I have been checking out different Preschools in the area. Most of them were not taking any kids and others were just way too expensive. Can you believe some parents pay $40.00 a day for one child! If you double that for someone like me with twins that's a lot of money. Putting the girl's into Preschool was a suggestion made by their Pediatrician at our last visit. He suggested it because he noticed how attached they were to me and of course how attached I am to them. So after a lot of searching I finally found one that I liked and that I knew the girl's would like.

So today was the big day for them, I got them all ready to go and had all these wonderful plans for myself. I figured since I didn't have any kids I would be able to get a million things done. WRONG! I dropped them off, stayed for about 15 minutes while they got settled in and then I quietly walked away. I wasn't even in the car for 5 minutes and my eyes began to well up with tears. When I walked in the door I honestly didn't know what to do with myself. There's so much to be done around here and I just couldn't do a thing. My house was so quiet that it felt so strange.

When I arrived back at the school to pick the girl's up, I waited patiently for them to come out, and what I expected did not happen. I expected to be greeted by two little girl's who were anxiously waiting for me to return. Not really the case. They were happy to see me, but they acted as if I never really left. Which is a good thing I guess.

I got to meet some of the other mother's today as well. I have never compared myself to a mother who delivered full term before. Really if I did it would be like comparing apples to oranges. They are two totally different experiences. But I'm going to admit that today I did. I got to observe a lot of the other moms and see how they handle situations with their child. I noticed that a lot of them walked in, said hello dropped their screaming child off and left. I myself could never do that. No wonder these kids are crying, to them it's the place that their mommy's leave them at. One poor little guy was crying so hard he ended up throwing up all over. I watched his mother as she rolled her eyes and walked out the door. To me this child needed some type of reassurance that he was going to have fun and mommy would be right back. I know that's how I would have handled it. It doesn't really take that long to distract a child away from something that they are upset at.

So all in all the girl's survived and I survived. Maybe next week I'll be able to get some things done while they are at school and not worry about them as much. I still can't believe they are in a Preschool program.


Where have my preemie babies gone?


Some cute artwork from their first day of Preschool


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8 comments:

Shannon said...

Oh Shannon I feel your pain. I can imagine how you felt! I am so happy that you were able to find a place for them, you'll have to let me know what one it is.

I LOVE the artwork! haha did that bring tears to your eyes? The first time Ashton did some artwork with his EI I was in tears! :)

I wish sometimes that some moms could live just a little bit of our lives and maybe they would appreciate their children more. It is so sad that this is what it would take sometimes. I know when I am out I will hear a parent yelling at a child for something silly and I just want to go over and tell them to quit bitching and appreciate everything their kids do.

Hey, maybe one day while they are in school and I have my mom here we could do lunch! :)

Lisa said...

I am so proud of you!

I know that there is no preschool in our future. I think that I would have major separation anxiety and I am not sure that anyone could keep up with Cole.

I am going to start with an infant development playgroup and then possibly move on from there.

Your pediatrition would have a field day with me....

BusyLizzyMom said...

Preschool, wow it must have been hard for you. I think I work harder when Elizabeth is at school as I run around cleaning and doing errands, by the time I pick her up I am done. It is great that they had a good day and that they didn't cry, I don't think I could handle it if Elizabeth cried. I love their artwork Elizabeh brought home some Thanksgiving art today too.
It is scary how they are growing up so fast, they will be in kindergarden before we know it.
Maybe we could meet one day while they are at school for a coffee.

Anonymous said...

Preschool already...I'm toying with it for next year. I know it's great for them from a social aspect, I just have a hard time dealing with the fact that it can be a breading ground for germs (Preemie mom anxiety). All this talk about getting together for lunch and coffee has me thinking...actually I've been thinking this for a few days now, I've been craving some good Italian food. I'm thinking we should plan one evening for all of us to go out for a nice dinner without the kids. I think we deserve it, and we could all relax knowing now that our kids can survive a few hours without us. Let me know what you think.

Take Care,
Vickie

P.S. Love the Turkeys!

Miracles said...

Vickie,
Your not alone with the preemie mom anxiety. I was very reluctant to put them into something because of the same thing. I admit that when I saw the other kids, I really only saw GERMS! I know it's awful but it's true.

I also failed to mention in my post that they are only going one morning a week for 2 1/2 hours. Plus, I only signed them up for a month to see how it goes. I was up front with the teachers and told them that the first sign of a cold and they were gone. I want them to be socialized but I'm not willing to put their health at risk either. So I guess you could say I'm following the Ped's suggestion but at the same time being very cautious. I figure they are my kids and I'm the one who has to deal with them getting sick day & night, not him.

Some good Italian food sounds REALLY good to me. I think I'll leave this one up to you seeing as my last attempt at a preemie mom get together failed.


Talk to you soon,
Shannon

baby james said...
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baby james said...

WOW ar you brave. But what a great start. What type of pre-school did you find? How often do they go and for how long? Something to strongly think about for us in the near future. Our kiddos are about the same age James was born in July 2005. Good luck next week. tracy

Lisa Leonard said...

i had such a hard time when my boys each started preschool. David was fine--he didn't fuss at all, but Matty screamed. I called every 15 mihutes to see if he had called down. I was crying and so worried! But he loves it now and I know it has been so good for him and for me.

I don't understand how some mommies seem so apathetic to their kids' feelings. I don't think it's a preemie vs. full-term thing. Maybe its just a personality thing?